FAMILY MATTERS
Pastor Funke started to address Family Unit as she commenced this evening session. She said that while we prepare for the dawning of a new day, there is the need for us to focus on the Family.
“Five things matter in the life – God, You, Family, Career and Relationships.” These five key areas, all have their root on the family. Once the family is in the centre of God’s will, every other thing, in the life of an individual will fall into place.
Marriage means different things to different people.
However, marriage is neither African or Western, it is biblical. It’s a covenant relationship between a man and a woman. It is God’s gift to humanity. Marriage is a mystery. Proverbs 30:18-19; Ephesians 5:31.
Rev. Funke speaking to the singles in the congregation said that before you enter into the marriage covenant, you must understand some basic truths. Marriage won’t complete you, so find your purpose and happiness while still single, learn to develop yourself. Enjoy where you are, on the way to where you are going.
She highlighted seven (7) wrong reasons why people marry.
This is wrong reason for marriage. An individual needs to be matured in specific areas before marriage. These areas include;
– Spiritual Maturity. By developing a dynamic relationship and walk with God.
– Physical Maturity. An 18 year old individual should focus on his/her education, and not thinking about a relationship.
– Financial Maturity. Be financially independent. Have a stable source of income before delving into marriage. She said, “If you still live in your father’s boys’ quarter, don’t consider marriage”.
– Emotional Maturity.
She adviced parents to stop putting pressure on their children for marriage, but instead pray for them.
Don’t marry a man because of what he drives, but for what drives him. Be sure to know his vision, because in it is the provision.
Some get married because they feel they must or because they got someone pregnant.
“Find your purpose and happiness while still single.”
Rev. Funke outlined eight (8) attributes of whom to marry.
Rev. Funke addressing the widows in the congregation …
“It is a dawn of a new day for you. If you are below 60 years and desire to marry, go ahead. Avoid adultery. It cuts destinies short.”
Rev. Funke Felix-Adejumo speaking to the Divorced or Separated…
There are certain stages that people go through when something bad happens to them. Shock to denial, to grief, to healing, and restoration. God restores, he is planning a new dawn for you.
She speaks to the Single Parents …
“The devil has done his worse. Don’t poison your kids against their other parents.”
To the Parents who have Children with special needs, she says …
“Be there for that child, support and encourage him or her. All shall be well.”
To Waiting Parents, the Reverend says, …
“While you are waiting, you can adopt. Adoption is a principle of mercy. IVF & IUI are also good. God uses both the medical and miraculous to heal.”
To Inlaws…
“Don’t trouble your children’s marriages. Stop talking and tearing homes apart. Karma is real.”
To Husbands…
“Wake up. Don’t be weak. Be a man and protect your wife and home.”
To the Wives…
“Stop being hostile to your INLAWS. Overlook offences.”
To the Married…
“Wedding is a day, while marriage is a lifetime.”
FOUR KINDS OF MARRIAGE
Luke 8:4
This is characterized by CARELESS HANDLING. Don’t take your marriage for granted. Take care of your wife. Praise and compliment her.
Marriage is like a plant that needs nurturing. Communication is a form of nurturing. Invest in communication. Talk, laugh, joke. Don’t be too serious or spiritual. Be careful of phones and social media.
Beware of growing problems in marriage. External influences, demonic incursions. Always pray together. Sex doesn’t keep a marriage, prayer does.
The God factor is a must in a good marriage.
THINGS A WOMAN WANTS IN A MAN
Don’t be an empty head. Be someone that can be looked up to.
TWO THINGS MEN WANT IN A WOMAN